Somewhere along the way a large majority of the population started to drift away from their bodies. We adhered to a lifestyle with no regard for this beautiful gift, while we lived externally through “things”, vices and second-rate relationships. This lack of self-appreciation has lead to an overwhelming increase in mediocre living and a plethora of health issues. You could name ways you slowly divorced your body on two hands, but I want to focus on one that I find very intriguing. The way we try to be whole through others - even though some of these external relationships will never be as guaranteed as the one with your body.
There is a pressure of only living up to ones opinions and suggestions, as a way of giving your life meaning. Meaning is something all humans crave and can be attained in a variety of ways. A common way people attempt this, is by comparing themselves to others and adopting their way of being in the hope of become like them (note: learning from people you admire is different). This exercise can never be completely achieved, so you ultimately fail before you begin - resulting in even lower self-esteem.
If you want to see light around you, you need to be the light.
So how do we cultivate this connection with our bodies again and lose the stress of needing another’s gratification? Gratify yourself. It’s not easy to do. In fact it can be a long road. There can be moments of rejection, where people are too scared to associate with your natural self-expression, in the fear of being judged. There can be moments where it's too hard to look in the mirror and say, “I love you”, because you don’t feel like you mean it. There can also be times you want more attention - mainly due to this lack of self-love. But there is just one thing you really need to remember. If you are tuning into and acting on the messages your body is giving you - mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually - you will slowly reach the point of living to your body’s full potential. Think about any relationship worth having - it takes work and commitment. But the rewards are oh so sweet when you treat yourself the way you would like/need to be treated.
As a result of rekindling the flame between you and your body - you naturally give your life meaning, you give your body what it needs and you appreciate who you are. The right people will gravitate towards you like a moth to a flame and you'll foster all the love you need.
Firstly, meditation and slow exercise (yoga). There is no better way to get inside your body than focusing on it. I personally love the headspace app to get you started. Of course adopting healthy habits will flow naturally once you are listening to your body.
Everyday. It’s not what you do every now and again that becomes the fabric of your being. It’s the repetitive nature of good habits each day that create you. There is also nothing wrong with the every-now-and-again treats along the way. Especially if it's The Hive Raw Brownie with Coconut Ice Cream. YUM!
WHY DO THIS?
Because life is too short to just exist through other people. Understanding why and how YOU exist on your own is one of the biggest rewards you can experience.
Pick up some good habits while you remarry your body and give it the respect it deserves. As we discussed in the last few posts - internal and topical nourishment is essential for balance and releasing those feel good hormones. I have found the seasonal approach to eating, get’s me closer to the rhythm of nature, which is something very close to my heart. In turn I experience more flow in my life, less stress, less health problems and more happiness.
Don't wait any longer. Fall in love with your being as soon as possible!